{"id":8693,"date":"2024-02-16T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2024-02-15T23:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/instrid.sk\/uncategorized\/strach-z-lasky\/"},"modified":"2024-02-16T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"2024-02-15T23:00:00","slug":"strach-z-lasky","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/instrid.sk\/en\/archiv\/strach-z-lasky\/","title":{"rendered":"Filof\u00f3bia nie je m\u00fdtus. Ako pred\u00eds\u0165 strachu z l\u00e1sky?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Pred p\u00e1r d\u0148ami sme si pripomenuli De\u0148 sv\u00e4t\u00e9ho Valent\u00edna, ktor\u00fd sa sp\u00e1ja s romantick\u00fdmi vz\u0165ahmi. K\u00fdm v minulosti sa \u013eudia zvykli usadi\u0165 okolo 20. roku \u017eivota, v s\u00fa\u010dasnosti mlad\u0161ie gener\u00e1cie vstupuj\u00fa do man\u017eelstva nesk\u00f4r. Z \u010dasti za to m\u00f4\u017eu vysok\u00e9 n\u00e1roky na partnera<\/strong> \u010di preferovanie kari\u00e9rneho \u017eivota pred vz\u0165ahmi.<\/p>\n

Ako p\u00ed\u0161e port\u00e1l O m\u00e9di\u00e1ch, z v\u00fdsledkov jedn\u00e9ho prieskumu vypl\u00fdva znepokojuj\u00faci fakt. Slov\u00e1ci a \u010cesi prest\u00e1vaj\u00fa ma\u0165 na romantick\u00e9 vz\u0165ahy \u010das,<\/strong> pri\u010dom so svojimi polovi\u010dkami tr\u00e1via priemerne len dve a pol hodiny denne.<\/p>\n

V\u00fdnimku netvor\u00ed ani novodob\u00fd fenom\u00e9n s n\u00e1zvom \u201esituationship\u201c, kedy sa dvojica stret\u00e1va bez hlb\u0161\u00edch z\u00e1v\u00e4zkov. Ako sme spom\u00ednali v na\u0161om minulom \u010dl\u00e1nku, predov\u0161etk\u00fdm ide o uspokojenie int\u00edmnych potrieb.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Pod\u013ea profesorky sociol\u00f3gie Elizabeth Armstrong sa mlad\u00ed \u013eudia sna\u017eia prostredn\u00edctvom dan\u00fdch zv\u00e4zkov presko\u010di\u0165 zau\u017e\u00edvan\u00e9 vzorce vz\u0165ahov.<\/strong> \u010co ak ale ide o jednoduch\u00fa mo\u017enos\u0165, ako unikn\u00fa\u0165 pred strachom z romantickej l\u00e1sky?<\/p>\n

F\u00f3bia novodobej gener\u00e1cie<\/h3>\n

F\u00f3bia z pav\u00fakov, tmy \u010di stiesnen\u00fdch priestorov. Pojmy, ktor\u00e9 s\u00fa pre n\u00e1s typick\u00e9, a stret\u00e1vame sa s nimi v podstate od detstva. M\u00f4\u017ee v\u0161ak niekto podobn\u00e9 pocity pre\u017e\u00edva\u0165 kv\u00f4li l\u00e1ske?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Filof\u00f3bia, zn\u00e1ma ako strach z l\u00e1sky, m\u00f4\u017ee \u013e\u00fabostn\u00fd \u017eivot jednotlivcov z\u00e1sadn\u00e9 ovplyvni\u0165. Ako uv\u00e1dza Forbes, prejavi\u0165 sa m\u00f4\u017ee ako strach z rozv\u00edjania romantick\u00fdch pocitov<\/strong> alebo romantick\u00e9ho vz\u0165ahu. Rozpozna\u0165 ju mo\u017eno prostredn\u00edctvom nieko\u013ek\u00fdch k\u013e\u00fa\u010dov\u00fdch pr\u00edznakov.<\/p>\n Mlad\u00ed \u013eudia vstupuj\u00fa do vz\u0165ahov nesk\u00f4r ne\u017e predo\u0161l\u00e9 gener\u00e1cie. Zdroj: pexels.com\n

K najz\u00e1kladnej\u0161iemu patr\u00ed vyh\u00fdbanie sa romantick\u00fdm situ\u00e1ci\u00e1m.<\/strong> \u013dudia z\u00e1pasiaci s danou f\u00f3biou sa zvykn\u00fa vyh\u00fdba\u0165 spolo\u010densk\u00fdm udalostiam \u010di dokonca priate\u013estv\u00e1m kv\u00f4li strachu z nadviazania d\u00f4vernej\u0161ieho vz\u0165ahu. Len pomyslenie na zamilovanie v nich m\u00f4\u017ee vyvola\u0165 nepriazniv\u00fa fyzick\u00fa a emocion\u00e1lnu reakciu. Zv\u00e4\u010d\u0161a ide o nevo\u013enos\u0165, chvenie \u010di rozvoj \u00fazkosti alebo panick\u00fdch z\u00e1chvatov.<\/p>\n

V\u00fdnimku netvoria ani \u0165a\u017ekosti s vyjadrovan\u00edm pocitov.<\/strong> Mnoho jedincov tak nedok\u00e1\u017ee prizna\u0165 svoje em\u00f3cie, hoci len rodinn\u00fdm pr\u00edslu\u0161n\u00edkom. Dan\u00fd strach m\u00f4\u017ee vies\u0165 a\u017e k sabotovaniu potenci\u00e1lnych vz\u0165ahov, \u010do sa zna\u010d\u00ed ako obrann\u00fd mechanizmus. Aj toto je jeden z d\u00f4vodov, pre\u010do \u013eudia s filof\u00f3biou si odh\u00e1\u0148aj\u00fa partnerov prostredn\u00edctvom vytv\u00e1rania emocion\u00e1lnych bari\u00e9r.<\/p>\n

Z\u00e1rove\u0148 mnoh\u00ed z nich vn\u00edmaj\u00fa l\u00e1sku ako nie\u010do negat\u00edvne,<\/strong> \u010do vedie k potenci\u00e1lnemu sklamaniu.<\/p>\n

Pre\u010do sa rozv\u00edja strach z l\u00e1sky?<\/h3>\n

S\u00edce romantick\u00e9 vz\u0165ahy s\u00fa pre v\u00e4\u010d\u0161inu \u013eud\u00ed prirodzenou z\u00e1le\u017eitos\u0165ou, existuje nieko\u013eko d\u00f4vodov, pre\u010do k strachu z l\u00e1sky doch\u00e1dza. Zv\u00e4\u010d\u0161a za n\u00edm stoja traumatick\u00e9 udalosti z minulosti, ktor\u00e9 m\u00f4\u017eu prameni\u0165 od ran\u00e9ho veku. Za pr\u00edklad mo\u017eno pova\u017eova\u0165 vyrastanie v dysfunk\u010dnej rodine.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Po\u010das t\u00edned\u017eersk\u00e9ho veku sa vplyv danej sk\u00fasenosti m\u00f4\u017ee prejavi\u0165 ako in\u0161tinkt\u00edvny obrann\u00fd mechanizmus,<\/strong> ktor\u00fd pob\u00e1da jednotlivcov, aby sa vyhli situ\u00e1ci\u00e1m, ktor\u00e9 m\u00f4\u017eu vies\u0165 k zranite\u013enosti. Nazna\u010duje tomu aj \u0161t\u00fadia publikovan\u00e1 v \u010dasopise Journal of Trauma, ktor\u00e1 poukazuje na to, \u017ee u jedincov, ktor\u00ed maj\u00fa traumu z detstva, existuje vy\u0161\u0161ia pravdepodobnos\u0165, \u017ee v dospelosti za\u017eij\u00fa \u00fazkos\u0165 z prip\u00fatanosti.<\/p>\n U mnoh\u00fdch \u013eud\u00ed sa strach z l\u00e1sky prejavuje kv\u00f4li emocion\u00e1lnej nedostupnosti zo strany rodi\u010dov v detstve. Zdroj: pexels.com\n

Odborn\u00edci apeluj\u00fa na rie\u0161enie minul\u00fdch negat\u00edvnych sk\u00fasenost\u00ed, aby do\u0161lo k efekt\u00edvnemu odstr\u00e1neniu bari\u00e9r, ktor\u00e9 br\u00e1nia plnohodnotn\u00e9mu \u017eivotu. Mnoho \u013eud\u00ed sa vyh\u00fdba pevn\u00e9mu emocion\u00e1lnemu spojeniu, napr\u00edklad pre nedostato\u010dn\u00fa starostlivos\u0165 zo strany rodi\u010dov v detstve.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Na z\u00e1klade toho sp\u00e1jaj\u00fa intimitu s nepredv\u00eddate\u013enos\u0165ou \u010di zranite\u013enos\u0165ou. \u010cl\u00e1nok publikovan\u00fd v Nature prich\u00e1dza s viacer\u00fdmi zauj\u00edmav\u00fdmi postrehmi oh\u013eadom danej problematiky. Jeden z nich popisuje to, \u017ee \u00fazkos\u0165 z prip\u00fatanosti m\u00f4\u017ee vies\u0165 k ni\u017e\u0161ej miere zvl\u00e1dania konfliktov.<\/strong> Pr\u00e1ve de\u0161trukt\u00edvne spr\u00e1vanie, ako neust\u00e1le h\u013eadanie istoty, negat\u00edvne ovplyv\u0148uje vz\u0165ahov\u00fa spokojnos\u0165.<\/p>\n

Filof\u00f3bia v mnoh\u00fdch pr\u00edpadoch ide ruka v ruke aj s hlbok\u00fdm strachom zo straty kontroly nad vlastn\u00fdmi em\u00f3ciami.<\/strong> V ur\u010dit\u00fdch situ\u00e1ci\u00e1ch m\u00f4\u017ee strach z nezn\u00e1meho vyvola\u0165 zv\u00fd\u0161en\u00fa \u00farove\u0148 stresu, \u010do vedie k vyh\u00fdbav\u00e9mu spr\u00e1vaniu.<\/p>\n

Efekt\u00edvny boj s filof\u00f3biu<\/h3>\n

Pokia\u013e ste sa v jednotliv\u00fdch bodoch na\u0161li, nez\u00fafajte. Filof\u00f3bii mo\u017eno pred\u00eds\u0165 prostredn\u00edctvom jednoduch\u00fdch cvi\u010den\u00ed.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It is important sebauvedomie,<\/strong> kedy si dan\u00fd probl\u00e9m prizn\u00e1te. Po \u0148om nasleduje jeho rie\u0161enie, kedy m\u00f4\u017eete akt\u00edvne spochyb\u0148ova\u0165 a pretv\u00e1ra\u0165 negat\u00edvne presved\u010denia.<\/p>\n Filof\u00f3bia nar\u00fa\u0161a schopnos\u0165 ma\u0165 zdrav\u00fd romantick\u00fd vz\u0165ah. Zdroj: pexels.com\n

Jedn\u00fdm z v\u00fdchod\u00edsk je \u0161trukt\u00farovan\u00fd pr\u00edstup k probl\u00e9mu, ktor\u00fd v\u00e1m m\u00f4\u017ee pon\u00faknu\u0165 kontrolovan\u00e9 a podporn\u00e9 prostredie.<\/strong> Ide o krok, kedy doch\u00e1dza ku konfront\u00e1cii a prekon\u00e1vaniu \u00fazkosti spojenej so strachom zo za\u013e\u00fabenia.<\/p>\n

V\u00fdnimku netvor\u00ed ani cvi\u010denie emocion\u00e1lnej regul\u00e1cie. Ide o efekt\u00edvnu pom\u00f4cku, kedy m\u00f4\u017eete svoje reakcie navigova\u0165 a riadi\u0165. Pom\u00f4c\u0165 v\u00e1m m\u00f4\u017eu techniky, ako mindfulness alebo medit\u00e1cia,<\/strong> prostredn\u00edctvom ktor\u00fdch sa nau\u010d\u00edte zdravo reagova\u0165 na emocion\u00e1lne sp\u00fa\u0161\u0165a\u010de.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Pred p\u00e1r d\u0148ami sme si pripomenuli De\u0148 sv\u00e4t\u00e9ho Valent\u00edna, ktor\u00fd sa sp\u00e1ja s romantick\u00fdmi vz\u0165ahmi. K\u00fdm v minulosti sa \u013eudia zvykli usadi\u0165 okolo 20. roku<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[51],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8693","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-archiv","two-columns"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/instrid.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8693","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/instrid.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/instrid.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/instrid.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/instrid.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8693"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/instrid.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8693\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/instrid.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8693"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/instrid.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8693"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/instrid.sk\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8693"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}